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5 Ways a Divorce Can be Healthier than Staying in an Unhappy Marriage

DuPage County divorce attorneyDespite the fact that over 800,000 divorces occur throughout the United States each year, many Americans still view divorce as a worst-case scenario. Divorce can bring a number of complications into your life, including child custody battles, disagreements about property division, and in many cases, a move away from your old home. However, for many married Americans, divorce represents a way out of an unhealthy relationship.

Why a Divorce Can Be Better Than a Bad Marriage:

According to studies conducted by The United States Census Bureau, 41% of first-time marriages end in divorce. While many Americans falsely believe that divorce represents a failure in their lives, in reality, divorce can represent the healthiest option for you and your loved ones. Below are five reasons a divorce could be the best decision you can make: 


Domestic violence is a pervasive issue in America. In fact, it seems there is a news story almost daily on the death or injury of a domestic violence victim. Often, the reported violence is connected to a victim trying to leave, either through separation or divorce. It is, by far, the most dangerous time for them. Learn how to protect yourself and your children during a divorce with help from the following information, and the aid of an experienced attorney.

Leaving is the Most Dangerous Time for Abuse Victims

Abusers who are losing control of their victim can become unpredictable and exceedingly violent. Some may even resort to showing up at the victim's place of employment or home. Thankfully, there are ways to mitigate against this type of behavior. Victims can seek help with an order of protection, which bars the abuser from coming within a certain distance from the victim. Divorcing victims can also let their attorney handle all communications between themselves and their spouse, which can limit any opportunity for an argument. Above all, remember to contact the authorities if you fear you are in immediate danger.


When facing a high net-worth divorce, parties may question the "best" possible path. Should they go through mediation and settle? Is litigation the answer? Deciding is not always easy. Each case is unique, and the exact details do have a significant influence on the more appropriate path. Still, some considerations can help you in weighing the pros and cons of each option. The following information offers some guidance, and it explains where and why you should seek assistance before making a final decision.

Domestic Violence, Intimidation, and Coercion

Statistics indicate that one in four women experience physical abuse in an intimate relationship. Abuse rates for men, which are thought to be underreported, are about one in seven. When you add in those that are emotionally or financially abused, the rates are much higher.


When your relationship with an ex-spouse or ex-partner involves an element of abuse, it can be difficult to think of your child spending time with that person. However, a history of abuse may not cancel out the child's right to a relationship with their other parent. Understanding this, and dealing with it can be difficult, but there are things that you can do to put your own mind and heart at ease. Learn more about your options regarding possible parenting time restrictions when there is a history of abuse, including when and where to seek assistance.

Presenting Your Case

One of the biggest challenges in bringing forward a case of abuse to the courts is ensuring that you are not somehow deemed as a someone who is trying to interfere with the rights of the other parent. As such, it is so crucial that you approach abuse issues carefully. Documentation is helpful, but the most important step you can take is to talk to an attorney instead of trying to handle the issue alone. Doing so could also be highly beneficial if you believe you may still be in danger; not only can a family law attorney protect your rights and the best interests of your child, they can also help you pursue a restraining order against the abusive parent.


Domestic violence can impact people from any social class, gender, race, or income level. It can also complicate divorces far beyond that of debt and asset distribution, the allocation of parental responsibilities, and child support or alimony determination. It can place the lives of victims and their children in danger. For this reason, it is critical that every domestic violence victim seek experienced legal assistance with their divorce case. The following explains where to find this help, and how it may improve the safety of you and your children during the divorce process.

Safety First - Always Have a Plan

Not all victims know they want to divorce. Some may fear the risk that it could pose to their safety. However, all victims should have a safety plan - one that gives them direction in the event that their life does become endangered while they are with their abuser. This should include knowing where you will go, whom you will call, and where you will stay to ensure your safety. Once you are away, seek support from family, friends, colleagues, and domestic violence advocates. With their help, you may begin to realize that divorce can be an option, even in situations that involve domestic violence.

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