How to survive Halloween and the holidays with your ex

 Posted on June 22, 2018 in Divorce

Halloween is just around the corner. If you are divorced and share custody of your children, Halloween can be the beginning of a busy and challenging season for your family. How can parents create a better environment for their kids during the holiday season?

Stories of fighting with your ex over holiday schedules and managing school activities are common. However, don’t believe everything you hear from your friends. Every divorce is different, and every parent’s relationship with their ex is different.

Tips for parenting with your ex

Parents can make the holidays more enjoyable for the whole family by actively communicating with each other. This can take time and practice, but it can result in better co-parenting in the long run. Here are a few tips to make ring Halloween and the holidays:

• Be respectful of each other’s feelings: Maintain focus on your children and avoid bringing up issues that led to your divorce.
• Be flexible with your schedule: Make an effort to have a flexible schedule when celebrating the holidays. It is important for your kids to spend time with both of you during these special times of the year.
• Maintain a united front: Discuss any issues with your ex and determine a game plan before you tell your children. Both parents should be on the same page when it comes to costume choice, parties and other activities that come up during this season.
• Put your children first: This is a rule to follow throughout the year as it will help you focus on what matters and protect your relationship with your kids as they get older.

Parenting with your ex is not easy. Disputes over how to raise your child will arise. It is much easier to resolve a dispute with your ex when you are both mentally prepared to find a resolution that will work for all of you by respecting each other and making an effort to put your children first.